How Fault-Finding Destroys Relationships
September 19, 2026
When one or both partners in a relationship engage in fault-finding, it’s usually a sign that one or both partners are attempting to create emotional distance from the other. Frustratingly, those who are fearful of emotional intimacy are most often unaware of it. How fault-finding destroys relationships can stem from unresolved resentment, fear of intimacy, unrealistic expectations, and toxic behaviour from an abusive partner.