When we settle for less in our relationships, it can create some undesirable consequences; emotionally and psychologically. Settling in a relationship can stem from having unrealistic expectations of what that relationship or our loved one is supposed to ‘be’.
Dialectical Behaviour Therapy aims to help clients who have difficulty regulating their emotions, who indulge in self-destructive behaviour and / or who have difficulty maintaining good interpersonal relations with others. Can Dialectical Behaviour Therapy help us to lead happier lives?
We typically overshare with others because we’re either feeling nervous or on the other hand, we may feel very comfortable with the person we’re chatting to. When people overshare, their primary need is to connect with another person. Anxiety can be the driver behind those who overshare, as well as loneliness. Loneliness can leave us feeling starved of connection with others. As our brain knows that our very survival depends on connection with others, a desperate need to connect with another person can sometimes see our social skills being hijacked by oversharing. This can sometimes lead to us forming unhealthy friendships and/or relationships.
There’s great power in sharing a good motto. Mottos are usually brief statements that are used to convey an idea, goal or principle. Because they’re sufficiently short and simple, a motto can be helpful when it comes to remembering what’s important; almost instantaneously.
As a counsellor, I know how vitally important healthy friendships are to our overall well-being. A life without friendship can feel empty and meaningless if
Rejection can feel like a punch in the gut and if you’ve ever been rejected, you will probably agree that it can be one of the worst feelings you have ever experienced. Rejection hurts; it’s uncomfortable, debilitating, overwhelming and it can feel like death.
It isn’t always possible to tell whether physical abuse in a relationship could become an issue in an intimate relationship, however, certain factors can increase the risk of intimate partner violence. It’s essential to be aware of the red flags that indicate that a relationship might become violent and what to do if you feel like your safety (or life) is at risk.
When we begin a new relationship, it can sometimes cause us to feel a little nervous or even anxious, and this is completely normal. There is some risk associated with relating to someone we’re attracted to and hoping to build a relationship with. There’s the risk we will love them more than they love us, the risk that they will reject or abandon us or that we’ll find out they weren’t who we thought they were. We can also experience the thought that ‘something is sure to go wrong’ or ‘it will all come crashing down’. But if we are resilient, the risk will be worth it, and the anxiety will fade over time.
The foundation of a genuinely fulfilling life is always built on a set of solid values. Values are our guiding principles; the lens through which we view ourselves and our world.
In the world of online dating today, many of us have become familiar with the expression ‘ghosting’. Being ghosted is when someone abruptly ceases to
